Whether you’re looking for a partner or re-evaluating a current relationship, it’s essential to know what type of “ship” you have. It’s not just defining the relationship but making sure you’re both on the same page. Of course it’s important to know what common interests, values, and goals you share. But more than that, you both need to be on the same personal page.
When a relationship starts it’s easy to see past their flaws, all you see is the “honeymoon period” glow. So when the glow starts to fade it’s crucial that you make sure they’re still compatible with you. Not just in your beliefs but in how you treat and respect one another. If we’re all boats and our weaknesses are holes, you need to make sure your partner is taking care of their boat as much as you are fixing yours. A relation”ship” that’s focused solely on fixing the other will still cause one boat to sink. Even if you abandon one of them, the extra weight will still slowly submerge the remaining boat.
This practice is focused on how to find the boat -person- that will complement your own, not complete it. Your boat is yours alone. You should find someone who is taking full responsibility of theirs, while still appreciating and admiring yours for what it is -holes and all.