Growing up we learn that there are opposing pairs in the world, such as light and dark, good and evil, or love and hate. But what exactly separates them? Some people choose to see the world in black and white while others see in grey. Although both may be correct, there’s certainly a grey area between love and hate that we have trouble seeing.
When we look at differing beliefs, the divide between love and hate is closer than we think. This is because of the real objective: to get the opposing person on our side. We want to convince our challenger to change their mind so that they’ll understand and agree with our beliefs -thus better understanding us. So when we argue, it’s actually a means of trying to grow the understanding between us.
We all share a hidden hope that we’ll eventually move from a space of hatred into a common ground of acceptance -love. It doesn’t mean that we want to love everyone and have everyone love us. It’s just that we care for and respect our beliefs enough to share them with others, in the hopes that they’ll consider forming a similar belief. So when that doesn’t happen we return to anger -hate. But it’s only because we want their understanding -love.