It’s also important to include in your letter that you forgive them and why. Our thoughts influence our actions, so when you actively think and write about forgiveness you’re more likely to give it. Then you can decide to send the letter or just destroy it. If you think it could help you reconnect or mend a bridge, then perhaps it’s worth a shot! If not, then you can hold onto, rip apart, or (safely) burn the letter. It’s the process of intending forgiveness that’s important. The only person who needs to know they’re forgiven is you.
Once you’ve forgiven your past pain, you can practice letting go of the pain and anger you encounter now -and in the future. When you find yourself in a situation that’s causing you negativity actively choose forgiveness. Imagine having positivity and love in your heart that can’t be affected or weakened by them. Use this new perspective that places emotional power in your hands -not theirs. See if you feel the difference when you immediately let go of negativity and choose forgiveness instead.