Now that you know how you want to feel in your ideal life, it’s time to fake it till you make it! Use your list of desired emotions to guide you throughout your day. Focus on emanating them in every action and interaction. The goal isn’t simply to fake happiness by acting fake to others or smiling all the time. Instead, look for moments or opportunities to express genuine joy. It’s about altering your expectations in order to find new possibilities for love, joy, or happiness.
Once you embrace this new mindset, you’ll constantly be on the lookout for people and experiences that allow you to exude your wanted emotions. While this doesn’t eliminate the unwanted ones, the more you’re aware of what you do want and how you do want to feel, the more you’ll be in control. So instead of following your normal routines and patterns, look for ways to shake it up and respond to situations differently.
If you’ve always been annoyed by a co-worker, hate your commute to work, or feel distant from your family, you can decide to change your reactions. In order to bring more courage, patience, or hope into your life, you are the only one that can bring it. So surprise yourself and think, speak, and act, in the way of the “new” you. By faking your wanted emotions and expressing them to others, they become real. Then in time others will respond to your new responses and the emotions you were once seeking will return to you.