There is always a “why” behind what we do. Whether we’re aware of it or not, we all hope for a certain outcome to each of our actions. This hope is what creates our motivation, the underlying intention that guides our actions to achieve the outcome we desire. It’s why we don’t always understand why we do what we do, or why we can react in a self-destructive way. When this happens we are blind to our “why” and our intentions control us.
If we can’t access an intention or understand it, we become stuck in a cycle of unconscious action and reaction. Realizing why we do what we do really means recognizing the underlying intent. Once we understand that, then we can work towards increasing its intensity so that our intention becomes more important than the outcome.