We all know that we’re not perfect. We have bad habits, negative tendencies, and sometimes controversial beliefs. But does that mean that we are less of a person? Depending on how we were raised, society taught us to search for people or things to “fill the holes” from our childhood. Essentially, we had to find a way to fix ourselves.
Whether it’s conscious or not, we are drawn to what we’re missing or have missed out on. The most common example is love. The love of a mother or father who wasn’t there for us, or abandoned us altogether. Even if we had the best childhood we still search for that love in a partner. We want someone who will help us feel complete and full. Perhaps this need is wired into us as humans, but even so, before we can truly love anyone else we have to love ourselves first.